Tolerance is a fair, objective and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc. differ from one’s own. We may even experience intolerance towards ourselves. Practicing tolerance begins with ourselves. We are all prejudiced about something – whether it be buying organic milk as opposed to nonorganic, to turning our back to someone whom we didn’t want to see. Tolerance is composure of mind and heart in the face of adversity and differences. It’s the ability to restrain oneself from acts of aggression and insult, and instead practice acts of patience. Through tolerance, we begin to move beyond the afflictions of our own mind, and end up in a place of compassion toward others, where we can clearly see our similarities and investigate our differences.
Tolerance is not the denial of feeling or thought, but rather the opening of our hearts and minds. It comes through the hard work of mental training, and asana and meditation practice.
I was reading an article in Yoga Samachar written by
Zubin Zarthoshtimanesh, a long time student of B.K.S. Iyengar who teaches at his own yoga centre, Iyengar Yogabhyasa in Mumbai. The subject of the article was Tolerance. He writes: “We all tolerate a lot in life, but that does not mean that we are evolving. Tolerance increases and becomes a virtue not if you tolerate more but if it synthesizes itself with other qualities like patience (titiksha), forbearance (sahana shakti), peacefulness, calmness (shanta guna), forgiveness (kshama), knowing, determination, and compassion.”
We live in a world of comparisons but after a while have to recognize that, if we see them as only comparisons, then we are in a state of avidya, (“not knowing”) and become quickly intolerant of what we perceive as our own shortcomings, or the shortcomings of those around us. If we chose the words – This is a good day , or a bad day , worse or better, right or wrong, or I wish I was better, more flexible, smarter, kinder etc. then we need to take another look, to observe why we have assigned this label to ourselves on this day, and with it, the obstacles that ensue. My teacher, Manouso Manos often tells us to look at the wall – notice where our eyes are drawn. For nearly all of us, our eyes are drawn to the mark on the wall, the chip in the paint, the blemish. We live in a society that is intolerant of blemishes, and constantly seeks to erase them. We seek to erase them in ourselves. What if you took the opposite view to see the differences as teachers, as guides, as opportunities for change. Imagine how strong and empowered you would be?
B.K.S.Iyengar used the practice of asana to explore complex emotions like tolerance. He said that Yoga begins when we become aware of oppositional dualities, and begin to balance these opposites. For example, in asana, what presses down, what lifts up, what moves back, what moves forwards? Finding the balance between these makes us understand more clearly, and with that we become more tolerant.
Patanjali says in sutra : 2:48 tatah dvandvah anabhigatah
From then on the sadhaka is undisturbed by dualities.
Being undisturbed by dualities requires that we be tolerant.
Our asana practice offers us a daily opportunity to work this out. This week, we have been working on Manouso’s instructions in tadasana to press the thighs back and take the tops of the buttocks down. Too much of one, throws the thighs forwards, too much of the other, lifts the top buttocks up. The middle ground, the balance of opposite actions, is an investigation of the back and forth between these two directions until the movement between both is so subtle, and we are able to stand on our legs. Iyengar wrote, in The Tree of Yoga, that our practice is trial and error and “as the trials increase, the errors decrease”. This is the essence of our practice. It is through this that we cultivate knowledge, discrimination, and a more tolerant acceptance of ourselves.
As we seek to find the balance between the oppositional actions in our asanas, the journey takes us out of the” I can’t, I can, this side is good, this side is bad, this is wrong, this is right, I hate this pose, I love this pose” prejudiced to one of recognizing the differences between our right and left side for example, as a place to investigate again and again and again.
Zubin concludes: “In the 25th Yoga Sutra of the third chapter, Patanjali says, “Balesu hasti baladini,” which means that by samyama (the union of focus and concentration) the yogi will develop the physical strength and endurance of an elephant. Now as you all know, elephants, in addition to their physical attributes, are also known to have perfect memory and tolerance. Strength is normally taken only in the physical dimension, but the same being (the elephant) also embodies a perfect memory.”
We should be humble within.
We are all intoxicated with our own confusion.
If the mind is made to be still, the eyes must be still.
If the nerves are still, then the Self is still.
The mind must not stop at one point and say, this is enough. It must go further, the Self must be everywhere.
To live in the moment is spirituality. To live in the movement is divinity.
Be a fanatic with yourself while practicing Yoga.
When you are fully in the body, you meet the soul.
Freedom starts inside, freedom from the dualities of mind and body, spirit and material.
Training of the mind and body leads to awareness of the soul.
You say “mind over matter” I say, “matter over mind”
B.K.S. Iyengar. Wisdom from the Master
The American Yoga ReVolution with Iyengar disciples Manouso Manos and Patricia Walden
A Conversation with Manouso Manos
Yoga: The Art of Transformation.
Manouso Manos gave a lecture at the Asian Art Museum as part of this exhibition. He describes yoga, past and present, and the life of BKS Iyengar, his teacher. Check it out.
NPR story about BKS Iyengar:
From a lecture given by Birjoo Metha at “Yoganusasanam 2014″
What is the difference between individual consciousness and universal consciousness?
Imagine a river coursing through the landscape. Then there is a lot of rain and the water comes down fast into the river and it breaks its banks and over flows into the surrounding area. When the waters subside there are ponds left over that are filled with the river water but are no longer connected to the river itself. Banks develop around these ponds and the river continues on it’s way. After a while, these ponds develop their own life within the boundaries, or confines of the pond edges. The pond is the individual consciousness. The river is the universal consciousness. The water always wants to join the river so it can see itself. Our practice is to try and break the boundaries of our individual consciousness to join the flow of universal consciousness rather like the pond breaking it’s banks. We have to let go of the identities that exist and let water return to the universal consciousness.